Monday, January 20, 2014

Home.

After almost a year of planning and anticipating, I am finally in Uganda - the pearl of Africa. There is already so much I would love to share, but for now I will just show you where I live (per request). I even threw in some selfies incase you needed to know what  I look like in Uganda.

I am truly blessed to live in an absolutely beautiful home with beautiful people in a fairly safe and clean part of town! Today I attended Church in Kivilu, the slums of Kampala, where I was once again reminded how blessed I am.

So here it is. Visitors welcomed.



































OH MY GOODNESS, I LIVE IN AFRICA! 



Tuesday, December 3, 2013

I Wore Leggings Today

When you opened this post, you most likely expected me to tell you wearing leggings was wrong. Actually, I want to do the opposite. 

Today I wore leggings. Recently in christian circles this has been a hot topic. First, I want to point out that modesty is extremely important, and as a christian woman, it is your job to respect your brothers in Christ by dressing in a way that glorifies God. Also, as God commands us to be set apart from the world, we must understand the way we dress must go against social norms. Because it is popular, does not mean it is ok to wear.  I strongly recommend you read the five myths about modesty, that explains why this is so important, well. I also want to humbly confess, I have dressed immodestly many times before, I have not always made the best decisions in this area in my life, and feel certain there are still ways I could improve in this area. 

That said, I did wear leggings today and I did not feel convicted about it. Absolutely, leggings can be worn in a way that is inappropriate, but I truly believe that they can be worn in a tasteful manor (Your butt covered - a must!!!). I felt more modest in my leggings than I did in my nike shorts that I wore to the gym. The same shorts that I have worn in my church before, and felt completely comfortable in. 

Whether I wear leggings or not, is not the point. (I honestly can't tell you whether wearing them is right or wrong - that is opinion based) What you think about me because I wear or do not wear them, is. 

Lately my facebook newsfeed and twitter feed have been blowing up with comments such as "leggings are not pants" (that is the nicest of the comments). There have been pictures, that in a very degrading way insult every girl that has worn them or wears them. Many times I have read a facebook status or tweet and my stomach dropped as I thought of the girls who I knew would read it, and wear leggings. Girls whom have a relationship with the Lord that I respect and strive to have. Also, as a young woman who is trying to disciple younger girls and hold conversations on the importance of modesty in a way to respect men - I am hurt by the way those same girls are being disrespected as the way they dress is being publicly criticized on social media by the men they are striving to respect. 

We can't not talk about that fact scripture says to hold our brothers and sisters in Christ accountable. Matthcew 18:17 says, 


“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector."

Scripture never says to publicly call out someones wrong doings. If you feel like a girl is wronging her brothers by the way she dresses, go talk to her about it. Don't call her out on social media so the next time she is in your presence she feels judged. 

Also, have you thought how the unbeliever who read your judgmental comments may feel? If I was not a believer and read how it was wrong to wear leggings, I probably would never want to attend your church and I certainly would feel judged by you.  Romans 14:1 says, "accept him whose faith is weak, without passing judgement on disputable matters." WAKE UP: whether leggings are wrong are not is disputable, so chill out and start focusing on something that matters. 

This is exactly what Jesus warns the pharisee's against in Scripture. He commanded them not to be so focused on laws, but rather just to tell people about Him. He would do the heart transformation and convicting - that isn't and never has been our job. 

You may think you know all the right ways to date as a christian, but when you place billions of rules on it, you are turning away people from desiring a Christ-like relationship. You are also making those who are not following your legalistic rules, feel judged. 

You may have decided you only want to listen to religious music. That is absolutely wonderful, but don't tell me I am wrong for not feeling the same conviction. (Disclaimer: what you listen to and don't listen to is important, but there is tasteful music that is not religious.)

You may have decided to not wear makeup, because God made you how he wanted you to look. Well that is great, but don't make me feel guilty for not feeling that way. (If a house needs painting... paint it.) 

The biggest cause of atheism is Christianity - this is statistically proven. Don't take part in this statistic. Veer away from legalism. Simply tell people the name of Jesus, and let Him do the rest. 





Wednesday, November 20, 2013

A Tear Provoking Sonic Trip

Saturday morning I was preparing for my last A Perfect Injustice jewelry show before the big move, when a crazy craving came over me. I wanted a sonic sweet tea so incredibly bad!

Many of you know this about me: sonic has always been my pick-me-up. Not that I only go when I am in need of a pick-me-up, but every time I do go, it does bring me a lot of joy. I wrote, "someone please bring me a sonic sweet-tea," on facebook a ridiculous amount of times during those stressful evenings at work, during high school. (and Susan Brown so often came to my rescue!)

So, I got ready as fast as I could and off I went.... to sonic. Half way there I remembered that I didn't even like sweet tea anymore. Especially Sonic's. Somehow my taste-buds changed, and drinking it now seems like drinking a cup of syrup.

Then I got there and stared at the menu confused, because all I really wanted was a cup of water. I did however order a diet-coke (really exciting, right?) but did not even drink half of it.

So why in the world was I dying to have sonic? Later that day I had a epiphany: it wasn't sonic I was missing, it was all the memories that are somehow connected to that place.

I was missing that first time all of us Ecity folks miss - the first day we successfully pulled into a sonic parking spot after getting our learners permits, and the joy and success we felt because of it.

I was missing  the first few months after getting my drivers license when I chose to park on the cool-side of sonic, and it actually made me feel cool. (I recently parked on the uncool side for the first time and it was so liberating, ha).

I was missing the daily 3:35pm fight to find a space - because it was just what you did when school got out.

I was missing all those silly boys showing off their big trucks all night long, every weekend, at sonic.

I was missing that day me and Lauren became best friends at sonic during free root-beer float day, as we circled around and around parking in new spaces each time to see how many free floats we could get (even though neither of us even like root-beer floats). I was missing that ridiculous amount of laughter that occurred that night. (seriously completely convinced this is why we are friends, Lauren.)

I was missing the night lauren and I met at Sonic to say goodbye before she moved to Korea. The same night she couldn't figure out how to fit that big Suburban into a space, so after multiple times (of embarrassment), she got out and let me do it for her.

I was missing the many times Ms. Susan surprised me with a sweet tea at work, and completely made my day.

I was missing that fact we (Kristie, Michelle, and Janna) would drive there all the way from Weeksville at ridiculous hours of the night, because we literally had nothing better to do. (OHHH, how I miss that amount of free time.)

I was missing that ridiculous day while living in Orlando when I was so upset and homesick and completely convinced that Sonic was the only thing that would make me feel better - so I drove around for three hours trying to find one.

I was missing home. I was missing my friends. I was missing my family. I was missing my lack of responsibilities. I was missing being a kid.

Then came Sunday. As I sat in church Sunday morning, I was looking around at the hundreds of people who have impacted my life over the past four year. I simply thought, "wow - I am thankful for this church - and I am really going to miss it," and that was all it took to make the tears start flowing!

All this to say, the "I am about to move to a different continent" emotions have officially began. I am feeling extremely sentimental. Just like my sonic-era of life ended, this phase of life too is coming to an end. People always say, "college is the best years of your life," and I couldn't agree more. This makes it really hard to let it end.

More than feeling sentimental, I am feeling thankful. Not for sonic, but for all of the other sources of pick-me-up's and joy that as filled my life the past four and a half years. I have the most amazing family, friends, community, and church family any girl could ever ask for - and I will miss each of you so much for the next 7 months of my life!

So here goes nothing: 30 more days in Raleigh and 60 more in the U.S.

If you wanna come reminisce at any point during the next two months, I am totally down!

Thankful for you all,

J